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Let’s say you’re a white woman who identifies as a Christian. You posted something that hurt BIPOC. Many people, Black women in particular, have explained why your action was harmful. There are several possible responses from this point. Which path will you take?
Path 1: Ignore
the critique. Continue with business as usual. Let the white women who follow
you argue with BIPOC in the comments.
Pros: You
remain neutral [in the eyes of white women who aren’t engaged in anti-racism
work].
Cons: BIPOC
know there is no neutrality. They see through this tactic and conclude you aren’t
interested in their equality.
Path 2:
Feverishly delete critiques. Remove the entire original post. Then create a new
post that shifts the blame for the original post to your social team. Offer a
vague apology but evade taking any real responsibility. Say you’ll do better
without providing concrete examples of how you plan to do so.
Pros:
Maintain the comfort of your followers [those who are white women and not
engaged in anti-racism work].
Cons: By
deleting the critiques and entire original post, the contributions of BIPOC are
erased. You’ve thrown your social team under the bus. You position yourself
above accountability.
Path 3:
Leave the original post and all comments from BIPOC. Consult BIPOC in your life
about ways to repair the damage done. Financially compensate those who educated
you. Address the harm, don’t give any excuses, ask for forgiveness, and share
concrete examples of how you will do better.
Pros: The
words of L. Glenise Pike, Founder of Where Change Started, are applicable here.
In her video, “The Importance of Normalizing Conversations About Race + White
Supremacy,” she explained the need to do the self-work of identifying,
unpacking, and dismantling the ways in which your behaviors perpetuate the idea
of white supremacy and to lead by example in becoming an inspiration for others
to do the same self-work. She continued that you miss opportunities to hold yourself
accountable and to round out your perspective when these conversations
aren’t normalized. One of her tips was to let yourself be human. She explicated
that you will make mistakes and must be held accountable; perfectionism allows you
to hide behind what you think is a noble reason to not have these conversations
and this is just self-preservation. I also see this as an occasion to
humble yourself in order to count others as more significant than yourself
(Philippians 2:3-4). You also give greater honor to the voices that have
historically not been honored and that are currently dismissed (1 Corinthians
12:24b-26). Path 3 allows for all of this and more.
Cons: You
risk losing followers [those who are white women and not engaged in anti-racism
work].
Which reaction is best?
I guess that depends on your perspective and what’s important to you. I think
that to most accurately represent Jesus, the third option is the way to go per
the pros.
As you may know, Rachel
Hollis took path 2. She is the latest in a centuries long line of white women
who have been corrected by women of color. As people have pointed out, this is love
being displayed. I attended an event where Austin Channing Brown was speaking
after the publication of her book I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World
Made for Whiteness. She stated, “If there is someone correcting you, it’s
because they still have hope. They think you care to listen and change what you
did wrong.” Sit with that for a second.
A platform of any size brings
responsibility. A sizeable platform increases your responsibility to steward
the chance to repair the damage you’ve done. Don’t be the reason someone loses
hope. Listen, take ownership, and change what you did wrong.
Numerous women of color
have addressed the Rachel Hollis situation, and I don’t need to rehash what
they’ve said. You can go to @ckyourprivilege, @blackwomenplantseeds, and @mskathykhang
to read each analysis. Follow these accounts and others, such as @tina_strawn_life,
@sincerely.lettie, @wherechangestarted, @lisasharper, @austinchanning, @speakingofracism,
@rachel.cargle, and @moemotivate.
Change your inputs if
you’re accustomed to only receiving white voices. Read So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown, and Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram X. Kendi. Listen
to podcasts owned and operated by BIPOC. Go through the Be the Bridge (@beabridgebuilder) document "Whiteness 101: Foundational Principles of Every White Bridge Builder Needs to Understand." Cite BIPOC. Compensate
BIPOC. Support organizations led by BIPOC. I am not interested in shaming
anyone. Though shame can be a powerful motivator, I’ve not seen it produce permanent
and life-changing results. However, I do want to be part of the solutions to
dismantle all systems of oppression by positioning myself under the leadership
of the marginalized.
We’re at a place where
the road splits. I want to choose path 3. Which path will you take?
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